I got engaged in a very dramatic way.. It really amazes me now that i look back in time . let me take you with me to a few fragments of my memory..
30 Jan 2007 11:00 pm
I am in Detroit in my hotel..My flight is at 1:00 pm.. I should have been at airport at 11:00 pm.. its already 11:00 while i am here at my hotel.. i am worried 'cause i already have an experience of missing a flight once... it seems i will be missing it again.. .. I am worried their is too much laggage to pack, i cant have any interruption in this packing process.
but i get an interruption when My mobile phone beeps.. i dont want anyone to call me right now..i am damn busy. i have a flight to catch.. i pick up the mobile.its a message from my mother asking me to call her home. Oh god.. there is no time to call her.. i am already late.. but i am calling home, am asking my brother to ask mummy on phone QUICKLY as i am already late.. mummy comes and now she is telling me that I am getting engaged on Friday.. I am angry.. What the hell is this..its just one of those plans that never wear the practical-shalwar (amli jaama) ...i havent even seen the girl.. There is no way i am going to accept any such stupid arrangement..
I am finishing the call and am running in the room..trying to pack all the lugggage.. i know there wont be any engagement. it just cant be..I wont even be thinking about it.. it was just an interruption in my work to pack my luggage.
(2 hours later)
12:50 pm
I just made it to the Gate for my flight going against all odds (refer to my previous blog entry) .. i had been running all the time.. i am so tired.. i am taking quick breaths.. havent thought of that call from my mother for a long time...soon i will fly to Newyork and then from Newyork to Dubai..
(12 hours later)
11:45 pm
I am onboard.. flying from newyork to Dubai.. i havent thought of that call from my mother for a long time ..i know its not going to happen..so i am not even thinking about it..i am watching "Peacefull Warrior", and i am wondering oh my god, i am watching this movie at the perfect time...there could not haven been a better time to watch it ..
(14 hours later)
31 Jan 2007
10:00 pm
I am at Dubai Airport.. I have a flight at 3:00 and i am stuck here since 8:00 pm. i hate such a long wait period.. An NCR colleague whom i met here on Airport , took me to Emirates waiting lounge where they offer free food and internet.. i am chatting with my sister on internet. she is telling me about my engagement.. and i am getting angry ..i am telling her that there is no way i am going to get engaged .. .. She is trying to convince me that i will like the girl.. and i am all against her ideas because i know that my family doesnt know me.. i cant marry anyone without knowing her first...My sister tells me the name of that girl..she too is not sure of the full name...Anyways, i know there is going to be a bad scene at home when i will reach there... i know i will be extremely chirchira because my lack of sleep will start my depressin-cycle by that time..and there will be too much fight at home..i am already depressed..
(8 hours later)
1st Feb.
7:10 am.
I am at the Peshawar Airport. I am waiting for the passport stamp people to come and stamp our passports.. the whole flight is waiting for the officials to arrive.. everyone is angry on the airport people.. there is a big crowd yelling and shouting , i am a part of them and i am cursing the staff too..
(1.5 hour later)
1st Feb 8:50
I am out of the airport . the stupid staff wasted so much time..though all they had to do was to stamp our passports showing that we have entered in Pakistan.anyways , i am outside the main building,..My father is greeting me..he is happy.. i see my my brother & mother..everyone is happy..
(1.5 hour later)
1st Feb 10:30 am
I am at home. have had breakfast. had talked with everyone..have opened my luggage to show them stuff that i brough from USA.. My father has left to get Mithai for some event in evening.. They havent asked me about my willingness yet.. they are just telling me that they are taking me to the girl's place to make us see each other.. i am not interested.. i have got a jet lag to get rid of... but they are all happy .. full of energy.. i am going to sleep now..
1st Feb 6:30 (8 hours later)
I just got up from my slumber.. My mother has asked me to get ready..to wear my suit . i am all sleepy and bored.. there are guests downstairs.. Why are so many people going with me when the plan is to see the girl only..
1st Feb 7:30 (1 hour later)
I am downstair meeting all the guests.. They are congratulaing me..oh.they are congratulating me because i just returned from America.
8:30 pm (1 hour later)
I am at the girls place..there are so many people here.. what the hell is going on .. i havent even seen the girl , why is everone congratulating me.. we havent been engaged yet.. i havent given any approval ..dah!! will anyone even ask me for my willingness..what is my family doing.. I start pretending that i am enjoying.. and realize later that i AM enjoying it ...Why?? . fortunately , my lack of sleep has started my maniac cycle instead of the depression cycle.-and its giving me enough energy and life to last for that day..but thats crazy .
10:00 pm (1.5 hour later)
I am sitting on a wooden swing (Jhola) wearing phoolon ka har..SHE is sitting with me.. There is a whole bunch of people looking at us.. they are all happy . My mother is giving me a ring and asking me to put in the HER finger..
i havent even seen the girl.. i havent even looked at her face yet..
I have got a jet lag..
I am trying to put the ring on her hand...somebody is shouting.."hey! hold her hand with your other hand ".. I am holding her hand , putting a ring on her finger. She takes out a small box and puts a ring on my finger...
The crowd shouts ..Mubarik ... Mubarik....
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I am officially engaged...
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Deep down , inside (at the time of the exchange of rings)
i am thinking that its ok.. i dont know what will happen next.. but i am accepting it.. .everything will go good.. i dont know how she looks like .. i dont know about her personality at all..but i am accepting it..I am thinking of my sister's words.."All girls are same.it doesnt matter whom you chose".. I am thking of my mental state that i had a few weeks ago at Meijeir departmental store in US when i spent two and a half hours to buy a single pair of steel toe shoe ...i had spent all the time (2.5 hours) comparing this one pair that i liked (and later bought) with all the shoes in the that store ..and i had thought
"Come on man!! If i am taking so long to chose a shoe, i am going to spend life times in choosing a girl.. I should better let someone else do the selection"..
I am also thinking about THE Answer from Daughtery..... THE Answer completely sealed one one aspect of my life... and now it seems completely fitting that i entering a new phase of life . The timing is perfect.
i am happy .I am satisfied ..
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I am accepting the engagement , I am accepting the script...
